Wednesday, July 27, 2011

A Modern Sexual-Assault Tale


Hello, I'd like to report a mugging.


A mugging, eh? Where did it take place?


I was walking by 21st and Dundritch Street and a man pulled out a gun and said, "Give me all your money."


And did you?


Yes, I co-operated.


So you willingly gave the man your money without fighting back, calling for help or trying to escape?


Well, yes, but I was terrified. I thought he was going to kill me!


Mmm. But you did co-operate with him. And I've been informed that you're quite a philanthropist, too.


I give to charity, yes.


So you like to give money away. You make a habit of giving money away.


What does that have to do with this situation?


You knowingly walked down Dundritch Street in your suit when everyone knows you like to give away money, and then you didn't fight back. It sounds like you gave money to someone, but now you're having after-donation regret. Tell me, do you really want to ruin his life because of your mistake?


This is ridiculous!


This is a rape analogy. This is what women face every single day when they try to bring their rapists to justice.


Fuck the patriarchy.


Taken from - This amazing Tumblr

Thursday, July 21, 2011

Pro Vaccines, Why I Support Shots.

Also known as, "Why I hate Dirty God Damned Anti Vaccine Hippies and Jenny McCarthy".
Now last night was a good night for me. I went to a friend's house, we got Chinese food, we had a drink, and then we sat down to watch Vaccine Wars. It's a documentary about the ongoing debate over whether or not vaccines are safe, cause autism, and are worth the potential risks. (Protip- yes they usually are, they certainly don't seem to, and yes because Polio sucks). I have to say that the vaccine debate is something I have taken a huge interest in as the debate has raged on, and my friend shares my ire toward Ms. McCarthy.

Now, perhaps some background on Jenny McCarthy is needed here. The woman was a playboy playmate, and while that doesn't mean she's stupid, it certainly doesn't make her a doctor or a pathologist or a statistician. In fact, Jenny dropped out of Southern Illinois University Carbondale where she originally studied nursing. Perhaps if she had continued reading her text book in between nude shoots, she would have actually learned something about vaccines, the history of vaccines and the difference they make in modern medicine, and even about Autism (which sadly, her son suffers from). Later in life she had a child, and decided he was "special" an that he was a "crystal child" and she was an "indigo mom". Meaning that when her son was exhibiting odd behaviors and developmental patterns, she read some bullshit books and crap online instead of taking him to a doctor for testing, lovely. Evan's disorder began with seizures and it was noted that his improvement occurred after the seizures were treated; symptoms experts have noted are more consistent with Landau–Kleffner syndrome, often misdiagnosed as autism, meaning that Jenny's "Autism is Curable" campaign may be based entirely off anecdotal evidence about the wrong disease. Jenny began her anti vaccine campaign when she went online and saw some anecdotal evidence that swayed her to believe that vaccines could have been the cause of her child's disease.Jenny McCarthy and her public outcry were not harmless. Many listened to her rants and did not vaccinate their children. here is a website tracking the disease and death that spread like wildfire after jenny opened up her mouth and spoke about things she wasn't educated about -Jenny McCarthy Body Count.  Note how many vaccines caused autism.

The idea behind the whole "vaccine's cause autism" bit is the fact that some vaccines, notably the MMR vaccine, contain (or did contain) the chemical Thimerisol. Thimerisol is a mercury based organic compound that is used a preservative. Many people assumed that anything mercury based could poison a person, however, the amounts found in an average vaccine dose are very small, and so far have been shown to be perfectly safe. In fact, a study in Denmark of children who took MMR vaccines with and without Thimerisol showed no difference in the occurrence of autism. This proves that the chemical had no relation to children having autism.

Part of the problem behind people who are against vaccinating is that they don't understand basic principals of science, medicine, or statistics. It is true that there has been an increasing number of children with autism, and that there are more vaccines given to children now then ever before. but the important thing to remember (and something drilled into my head during high-school math and science classes) is that CORRELATION DOES NOT IMPLY CAUSATION. Using the same logic, I could blame global warming on a lack of pirates, there are less pirates now then there were hundreds of years ago, and there are also more greenhouse gases, so obviously pirates prevent global warming, right? No. that's silly, and so is this argument. I am all for people forming watchdog groups, and keeping an eye on vaccine procedures and the companies that supply the shots. i agree that the shots should continue to be tested for greater safety. But I also know that vaccines are an amazing thing, and that they protect people.

The greatest benefit of vaccines is not to the individual, it is to the community, and those who cannot receive the vaccine themselves. Herd Immunity is important. Small children, elderly people and people with medical issues cannot receive vaccines themselves, so they rely on the people around them to be disease free. When a person makes a choice to not vaccinate their child, they are creating a vector for disease. People often mention that they would quarentine a sick child, but the simple medical truth of the matter is that many diseases can be spread before there are any obvious symptoms, and in that case, others are put at risk. If you don't vaccinate your child, and they spread something like whopping cough to an infant, and that baby dies, are you at fault?  Should people without any medical training be allowed to make these kind of important choices? I am not so sure.

Today we are seeing the revival of many diseases that haven't been seen in years. Whooping cough, measles, what's next, polio? People have lost the fear of these diseases because they weren't around in the US, but they weren't around because there were vaccines keeping them at bay. The same parents choosing not to vaccinate their children were likely vaccinated themselves. They have never seen a baby die of whooping cough, or seen a child crippled by polio. Yet it was not so long ago that these diseases ran rampant. My own grandmother still remembers the polio outbreaks she lived through as a child, how scary it was to see children carted off the hospital, and coming home unable to run or play. Many diseases we vaccinate for are not curable. We can stop a person getting the disease, but once they have it, it can't be treated easily, and there is a very real chance of death. As these diseases make a comeback, I can only hope that more people will take time to truly educate themselves and listen to experts, for the safety of their children and others as well.

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Getting More Goth In Your Gothic Lolita

Now I know many people are aware of the style known as Lolita. The substyle known as Elegant Gothic Lolita (or just plain Gothic Lolita, depending on whether or not you follow Mana) has also been gaining a bigger and bigger following amongst Western goths. The victorian influences, layers of black lace, doll like hair and make up and the sheer decadance of it all is hard to resist for some.
However, the style does have a rather strict set of "rules" or guidelines that help define it. The clothes are expensive and proper shoes, undergarments and accessories are needed to help make the look complete. More and more Western girls and boys are choosing to deviate from the traditions, opting instead for looks that push the boundaries of the style, adding more punk and goth influences. I myself tried wearing Lolita for only a short time (and mostly sweet substyles at that) and decided it wasn't for me. However the look is still something I find very appealing, and I decided the try and make some coords that push the regular boundaries of Lolita. Let me know what you think, would you rock Lolita?


gothloli 1

A dream coord


sugarpunk lolita 6

sugarpunk lolita 5

sugarpunk Lolita2

sugarpunk Lolita 1


Kandy by Kobaby featuring crew shirts

Saturday, July 9, 2011

Blond Mohawk And Past Looks

Ok so I have to admit, I like to change up m hair/makeup routine a lot. I don't really ave a "regular" look that I stay with for any length of time. So here's my current look, super short and bleached bright, along with two of my last looks!

Friday, July 8, 2011

All The Angry Feminists At My School Hate Me

First of all, I want to say I don't hate feminists, I don't. I'm a girl. I want to get paid as much as men do, and be able to live my life without judgement. However, that judgement line applies to other women as well. I hate living in a world where women are supposed to be so empowered, and yet feel the need to put each other down. I have never been harassed, normally or sexually by a man, yet I have had a lot of women put me down for choices I make.
I am a submissive woman in bed, I admit. I like being called slut, whore, bitch, a bad little girl, and everything in between. However, that's only in bed or other situations which I consent to with men I care about a great deal. I take a lot of joy in being a "good girlfriend" putting on make up to look nice for my man, doing my hair the way he likes for dates, even running about in crazy high heels because, lets face it, men love 'em. I like cooking and children and fashion and I know how to sew. Apparently this makes me a bad woman, and makes other women's lives harder.
Someone actually said these things to my face. Apparently my choice to wear mini skirts meant that other women had to suffer. I "made them look bad" and "gave men unrealistic ideas about what a girl should look/dress/act like".
I know some women choose not to show a lot of skin or put on make up. Not all girls dress to impress men. In fact, a lot of what I wear is simply what I like. I like my short skirts and tight tank tops, and if some guys like that look then that's fine.
I'm all for women being empowered but that also means letting everyone make their own choice, and not attacking people for not living their lives the way you do.

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

My Alt Fashion Background

I know many people can look back and pinpoint the moment when they first became a goth or a punk, can remember the CD or band or movie that got them into the scene, the first friend they knew who wore all black.
For me, it was a little different. I was never much fof a normal dresser. I was a ripped jeans and tank top girl when little and moved up to skinny jeans and limited edition chuck taylors and pink hair fairly quickly. My background is more punk and rock and metal then goth, but I have to say the black is slowly taking over my wardrobe.
I guess I got lucky in that I never really went through the awkward baby bat stage that some do. I was never what you would call a moth goth, and for that at least I'm grateful. I guess growing up liking magazines and fashion blogs helped me get a long a bit better then some.
I was always an odd kid too, like plenty of goths and punks. I hung with the nerds and geeks and burnouts. I never had a friend leave me because of how I dressed, and was never picked on either. I dated a punk (who was scary and easily over 6ft 5 with his mohawk spiked up) and hung out with other spooky kids. I read a lot, giant fantasy novels and classics and comics and manga and as a kid my greatest joy was staying up late killing zombies on my playstation (I was an ADD kid who didn't sleep).
Nowadays I'm depressed to look around my local mall and see so few real punk or goth kids running around. There are more resources then ever before yet so few new people seem to be atrracted to the scene, many falling prey to emo and scene or poseur styles. It's sad sometimes, walking by my local Hot Topic, filled with preppy kids buying Justin bieber hoodies and remembering the good old days when the heavily pierced people behind the counter used to snark at anyone wearing too much color and advise them to shop elsewhere.  

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Fire Island Invasion of the Pines

Hello! I hope everyone had a lovely long weekend and did something amazing on Independance day. I, being the massive flake that I am, did not really celebrate the fourth, or at least didn't do so in any conventional manner. Instead I went with my friend Mike to go and see the Invasion of the Pines at fire Island, which is basicly a huge gay/drag queen fest. It's amazing, hundreds of people flood the beaches in boardwalks in fanastice getps to mark the anniversary of a time when Queens were not as celebrated as they are now. I wa sno the only straight girl there though, plenty of people form all walks of life were in attendance, and I had anamaizng time, and for some reason all the gay men found me cute as fuck, and even felt the need to rush up to me gushing over my hair and my pretty face and huge rack. I love gay boys. I also went swimming and built a sandcastle and went on a boat ride to a much more...normal...side of the isalnd for a nice dinner w/ Mike and his parents. I had a great time and in fact it inspired me to harass Mike about the possibilities of going back for a campout. Swimming and marshmallows and sleeping outdoors ftw!