Monday, October 31, 2011

Demon Girl

I decided to dress like a little demon girl for class, I actually had two costumes this year!

I actually like having my mohawk up and back like this, may try it for an everyday look sometime soon. What did you guys dress up as?

Thursday, October 27, 2011

Goth Challenge Day 14, What was Your best and Worst DIY?

My worst DIY experiments aren't things I have pics of sadly, they were mostly just failed t-shirt surgeries. I cut them too short or too low or somehow ruined them, and then tossed them out.
Most of my DIYing is simply me sticking studs on things or cutting the necks out of band shirts. I made a lovely fairy-kei/Lolita skirt last year, but I got rid of it when I quit sweet Lolita so I don't have a pic! I do have a pic of some shoes I altered, covering them in leopard print. I want to put spikes on them as well and I also have ideas for a spike covered leather jacket as soon as I can get supplies. I did just recently paint some crosses and put some small studs in an old blazer I had. I am also looking forward to wearing some bright pink heels left over from some fairy-kei outfit that I decorated with leopard spots.


Monday, October 24, 2011

A Little Less PG- My Life and BDSM Part 1 My Introduction to the Lifestyle


BDSM is a huge part of my life, and up to now I have been keeping it pretty separate from this blog. I have decided to add some more personal elements here to mix in with the usual flow of fashion posts. I recently saw a post on Bats and Bunnies, all about asexuality, and I was so impressed with her openess, that I was ashamed I hadn't shared as much myself. To me, my interests in music, fashion, the goth and punk scene and BDSM and the LGBT community are all very much intertwined and it seems silly to edit my own blog for no reason.
      I have had an interest in BDSM since I was 14. yes, that is very young, and no I don't regret it. I never had much of a religious background, and I had been through sex ed classes and knew to use a condom and all about safer sex and STD risks. Everything I ever did was consensual and I enjoyed being able to learn so much about myself at such a young age when most girls are still struggling with puberty. I was dating a senior and I was a freshman. We were both virgins, but had a good time experimenting and eventually having sex.
      As we progressed we became more open about what we liked, having open discussions about our personal fantasies and what we wanted to try. Pain and power play were things we both enjoyed, and to me, perfectly normal. Having neer been with a vanilla partner I never considered the idea of sex without pain or kink. This was not abuse or anything of the kind, I was just lucky enough to have my first experiences be with someone who happened to liek the things that I did. After we broke up, I continued to persue my interests, without even knowing what they were called. I was never shy, and I shocked more then a few boys and men by asking to be spanked or hurt or called names in bed. But to me, being that free and open was more loving then rose petals or candlelight. (Although candle wax, I found out later, can be fun if used safely).
      I didn't find out what BDSM was called, or about the variety of activities and lifestyle choices it encompasses until a few years later, and after that, I became even more active. I made a point of telling my partners about my wants and needs (I might make a whole other post about this later) and learnt about safety measures i could take. I also enjoyed talking to other subs and doms online (again, a more in depth post soon!) and even over the phone a few times. Now, BDSM is a big part of my life. I consider myself a submissive, and enjoy going to BDSM clubs, events, play parties and munches. I am up front with people about my life and my relationships, and that it makes me happy. So now I am sharing that with all of you lovely readers, and hope to continue to share that part of my life as much as any other.
Are any of you into alternative relationships?

Thursday, October 20, 2011

Let's Play Amnesia Dark Descent, Watching What You Can't Play

I looooooove video games. I really do, but now I only have an old-school X-box and a Nintendo DSi, and very little spare money. So I don't get to play a lot of games I want to. My solution, nerdy as it is, is to watch others play! This might sound boring, but I assure you it's not. Mangaminx is a Youtube user who makes videos of her playing through horror games, accompanying them with her hilarious commentary and the occasional scream. Right now I'm watching her play through the Swedish computer horror game, Amnesia the dark Descent. It's a surreal survival horror game with one important twist, you have no weapon. You cannot fight the monsters that stalk you through the darkness, only hope to escape them. Here's the first in the series of videos-

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Sunday, October 16, 2011

Neo Grunge and Nu Goth, Possible for a Lolita?

Lolita is a wonderful fashion due in some part to the fact that it contains a large amount of sub categories and styles, and can often be mixed with other non related fashions. Lately my Tumblr page (check my Tumblr here) had been flooded with pictures of cute little girls done up in black and plaid. Nu Goth and Neo Grunge are both revamped version of classical alternative styles. Nu Goth in particular has sparked a lot of controversy, as some of the kids who have been wearing it have offhandedly insulted other goths and some goths have developed a rather elitist attitude towards them, calling them hipster posers and other nasty things. I myself love both styles, and hope to see more people adopt them and see more of them join the goth community. I also saw amazing potential for Lolita crossovers in them, so here are two Polyvore sets I made, seeing how the two might mesh.

Nu Goth Loli

Nu Goth Loli by codydarkstalker featuring paul smith shirts
This set features a velvet Lolita skirt, black BTSSB low heeled boots and an Alice and the Pirates coffin bag. I added in a sheer blouse and a black bustier to add an edgy, almost sexy edge and a few accessories that seem popular among nu goths, most featuring spikes or crosses worn in a more modern way. I think this outfit works rather well since the sheer black blouse in a popular nu goth item, but the bustier underneath and higher waisted skirt and black tights still keep the look modest enough for most Lolitas to still approve.

Neo grunge Lolita

Neo grunge Lolita by codydarkstalker featuring cable knit stockings

The neo grunge look features a plaid Lolita one piece dress and a grey long sleeved shirt to wear underneath. I think the color and texture combo is very fitting for a grunge inspired look, while wearing a one piece keeps the outfit looking Loli. I paired the dress with thick tights and medium heeled grey boots and afew edgy accessories. The Supporate System necklace adds a small pop of contrasting color while the fox tail and backpack style bag both add an updated look and an interesting mix of texture.

Would you ever wear nu goth or neo grunge style? Why, why not?

Monday, October 10, 2011

A New Kind Of Mall Goth: Spooky Chic On A Budget

The words "mall goth" tends to have a negative connotation. It brings to mind images of Halloween white face make up and ill fitting tripp pants. Marilyn Manson t-shirts and ugly jeans. These things happen for two reasons, either a lack of knowledge about the style, or a lack of funds. But the times and the trends have changed, and now you can easily build a reasonably workable goth or punk wardrobe at your local mall, and without breaking the bank. There's also an added bonus of shopping in trendy stores, your parents are less likely to balk at paying for a back to school wardrobe of black and lace if it came from the same store the preppy cheerleader shops at. These outfits all come from a single store, and the crazy part is, no Hot Topic needed.

Wet Seal Goth


Wet Seal draped top, $15
Wet Seal knit shirt, $8.75
Wet Seal short pleated skirt, $20
Wet Seal nylon pantyhose, $6.50
Wet seal boots, $28
Wet Seal foil bag, $8.50
Wet Seal necklace, $20
Wet Seal vintage looking jewelry, $13
Wet Seal facets jewelry, $8.50
Wet Seal cross jewelry, $6.50
Wet Seal metal jewelry, $6.50
Wet Seal lace glove, $4.50


This outfit comes from Wet Seal, a cheap trendy store that is usually popular with trendy teenage girls. I love this store! They have great deals on black heels and boots and flats, good layering pieces and a nice assortment of cheap accessories for when I want something trendy and don't want to break the bank. I've used their feather earrings, cardigans and shoes in my own goth wardrobe, and I am constantly seeing more workable pieces coming out. Just don't style your outfit the way they do on the mannequins!

H&M Goth


H M printed shirt, £7.99
H M short leather jacket, £30
H M pleated skirt, £15
H M cable knit tight, £9.99
H&M wedge boots, £30
H M leather handbag, £15
H M bracelet, £3.99
H&M earrings, £3.99
H M metal ring, £3.99
H M long beaded necklace, £6.99
H M hair clip accessory, £1.50
Eyeshadow Multi, £2.99


H&M is one of my favorite stores in my local mall. My boyfriend is equally obsessed with it. They always have a great variety of on trend looks as well as cheap and decent quality basics like v neck t-shirts and tights. H&M has recently jumped on board with the leather trend putting out some great skirts, pants and biker jackets (I got myself one!) in vegan friendly materials. They also have a nice selection of faux fur items once the cold settles in.

Charlotte Rousse Goth


Charlotte Russe top, $18
Charlotte Russe skirt
Charlotte russe, $7.50
Charlotte Russe beaded jewelry, $11
Charlotte Russe wrap around watch, $14
Charlotte Russe bracelet
Charlotte Russe stretch ring
Charlotte Russe earrings
Charlotte Russe knit scarve, $13
Charlotte Russe - 3-Buckle Sueded Wedge, $43
Charlotte Russe - Metallic Nail Shields & File, $9.50


Charlotte Russe is a great store for classic looking pieces and work wear as well as shoes. Honestly, I have at least five pairs of heels from this store, they usually have great a great selection and sales on. This is the place to go if you want to try out some corp goth, or simply need a suitably spooky and appropriate outfit for an event.

Forever 21 Goth


Forever21 lace top, $16
Forever21 knit cardigan, $12
Forever21 skinny fit jeans, $25
Forever21 platform wedge heels, $28
Forever21 clutch handbag, $17
Forever21 cuff bangle, $8.80
Forever21 bangle bracelet, $4.80
Forever21 gothic ring, $6.80
Forever21 antique jewelry, $8.80
Forever21 thin ring, $1.50
Forever21 hook earrings, $1.50
Forever21 braided belt, $5.80
Big Lips, Big Lash Set, $4.80
Shimmering Wine Nailpolish, $2.80


Forever 21 is a mecca of fast fashion and designer inspired pieces, which is great when designers are churning out more and more goth and punk inspired looks. from party dresses to comfy flannels and a HUGE range of accessories, this is a store where you could build an entire wardrobe. Shop the sales and keep an eye on their website for great deals, I have found everything from varsity jackets to faux leather pencil skirts here, the key is to really dig through the whole store. You can often find gems hidden in the clearance racks.

Many will look at these outfits and say, "Wait! These are just regular clothes in black!" and they would be right. te truth is, looking goth has as much to do with hair, make up and attitude as it does with clothes. Goth brands like lip service and trip are popular, but in no way a necessity, and many times you can find extremely similar items in local stores for a fraction of the cost. Also, a few spikes, crosses and some lace can go a long way towards looking dark and darling.

What mall stores do you love to shop at?

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Daily Makeup and Lipchain

I found this chain in a pile with some old jewelry, I don't remember buying it but it's great, comfy and nice when I want to add a edgy touch to an outfit.